Been Up To Something...

Life as always has managed to keep me busy. Within a 30 day period I started a dual masters program and a new job. Needless to say I have not had time for much of anything....well except for Facebook when I want to kill a few brain cells and get aggravated over the multitude of ignorant people that are out there in the world that manage to pop up on my timeline. Yes, yes I know I said that my Facebook hiatus would be for the year but peer pressure is a mother...

Anyway, I am genuinely happy with my life. I can't complain. No real worries, good friends and loving family. Everything is as it should be. The dating life is nonexistent and that is by choice. I have been through a lot the past few years in terms of dating and I feel emotionally and mentally spent in that aspect. I am trying not to lose complete faith in men and mankind but from the things I see around me that is a fight I just don't have the energy for. Love is definitely in the air though and my friends are most certainly breathing it deeply. LOL! I will admire my crushes from a far and celebrate in the love my friends have found for themselves. *shrugs*

Just a quick update nothing serious. Have a great holiday weekend. Blessings to all.

The FaceBook Project...

As I found myself logging into  Facebook for the second time since I began my Facebook hiatus on January 1st, I realized how much our communication and communion with one another has changed over the years. Before Facebook conversation were held via phone, message boards, chat rooms and/or emails. The ability to log in and have all of your friends from every realm of life in one place was not the reality. Now you can log into Facebook and see the progression of life of all your friends, acquaintances, co workers and business associates. With just a click of a button you can go into various groups and have in depth conversation about the things that interest you with out leaving the Facebook page. It allows for optimal multi tasking by allowing you to chat, post, send inbox messages and stalk someone's page all at the same time, not just from your computer but from your phone as well. How efficient!

Don't get me wrong I am not anti Facebook, actually I love Facebook. I have seen many businesses grow, I have been introduced to a sport I love, I have been able to celebrate in the wonderful things that are going on with friends who are far away and I have met some great people; despite all of that Facebook can become addictive and time consuming. I have realized that the foundation of some of my conversations have been built on what is happening with who or who posted what on Facebook. It makes for funny conversation and jokes but I have also realized that being on Facebook can have a negative effect on a person and how they interact with people. 

Despite the fact Facebook has security measures in place (which become more relaxed with each change) in some ways there is no way to really get away from certain Facebook friends, hell damn near anyone can find you in minutes. :-( Yes, I am aware I can hide posts, block and unfriend people but who wants to really deal with the logistics and possible confrontation that comes with doing that? Honestly, to even go that far to unfriend someone is never that serious to me in the first place. After all it is just Facebook, right? Nope, maybe...hell I don't know. 

All I know is that the" if you want to keep/get a man yo have to be a good women that cooks, cleans and put it in yo mouth. Oh and you must not forget to like this picture if you love Jesus or else Black Jesus will not "blest" you. Postings of heart break, life being great (when you really know it's not...yeah I KNOW YOU), big booty girl of the day/week/month/year and this is how successful I am, play this game unknowingly sike ya mind you're an antelope now" posts are all beginning to blend together. It has become a menagerie of mess and it is beginning to read like this, "If you are a good woman to keep yo man you need; to cook, then put it in yo mouth, post a big booty pic, like the Black Jesus so you can be "blest", act like you are successful and pretend like you have a life by posting picks of your living room made to look like a party scene and you photo shopping people in to make it look like you are the shiiiiiit". Taking it a step further how about, I am going to like every single comment you post to my man because I know he like you when in reality I don't want himmmm...we just cool! Does it not take two? LOL! Duck lips! Can't take much more of Duck Lips. Why are we still posting duck lip pictures in 2013/2014? Stop it!

How about that person that hurts you and/or upsets you? They claim they are sooo sorry and torn up about it posting subliminal apologies and requests for forgiveness while simultaneously posting about how happy and blessed they are, posting pictures displaying a wonderful life. Normally, I can build a bridge and get over it. I wish no one no ill will...that is not my spirit BUT when a mixture of fakeness, insincerity and a big scoop of fuck you is being rubbed all up in your face with every post,  it makes it hard not to feel like this about that person....

Anyway the high level of irritation I was beginning to feel got me to thinking how much better life would be if I did something constructive with the time that I spent on Facebook. There is so much I have to do, want to do but always complained that I really did not have the time to do it and it is hard to put time into something when I spend over 12 hours of my day playing Candy Crush (that game is the Devil), talking to people and partaking in all kinds of foolery on Facebook. OMG! I just realized I spent more time on Facebook than I did earning my pay check. Wow, if I got paid for being on Facebook...baaaaabbbyyyy I would never have to work another day in my whole entire life. 

Unfortunately, Facebook has it set up to where you have to go through your personal page to manager business pages. I am building a business and I until further notice I still manage the Facebook page for my company so sometimes that will bring me back unless I am specifically looking for something, otherwise I decided not to have a presence on Facebook. I said it will last for the year but it might become a habit. Who knows? All I know is for right now I want to use the time I have wisely and that is what I intend to do. 

Oh and don't think this is going to lead to more blogs. LOL! I just had all this in my head and I needed to put it some place. 

Be blessed folks!

30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 8- 5 Passions You Have Right Now

Not sure if I can make five...but we shall see...

1. Raising my children to be productive members of society.
2. Helping others
3. Staying healthy and fit.
4. Running
5. Being a better me

30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 7- What Is Your Dream Job? Why?

My dream job would be to run my business full time. It is something that I really enjoy doing and it comes to me naturally like breathing. I won't have to answer to anyone but myself, don't have to punch a clock, my success is dependent upon how hard I work not by how hard someone feels that I'm working. I have so many ideas for the business yet I don't quite have the time to put into really making it what I envision for it to be.

...Yep! Many blessings to you all.

30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 6- The Hardest Thing You Ever Experienced

I started thinking about this days ago more so because I have experienced some really hard times in my life. Anyway, the hardest thing I have ever experienced in life is the divorce I went through 10 years ago.

The loss of a marriage is really hard (even harder with kids involved) especially when you put so much of yourself in it, sacrificed and fought to make it work only for the other person to basically check out on you. I think the part that makes it even harder is how people change... someone that once loved you so much basically no longer has your best interest at heart; they no longer care about you, your feelings or what happens to you. You find that not only do you have to rebuild financially, physically but spiritually and emotionally as well.

Ahh well that is over. Life has since gone on. Much love, many blessing and peace to everyone.

30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 5- What Are The 5 Things That Make You Most Happy Right Now?

Finally, a break from the deep personal stuff...right now at this moment?

1. Cupcakes
2. Running
3. The 70% off with an additional 20% off shoe sale at Nine West.
4. Ibuprofen
5. Payday

Mhm, that was easy. Peace and blessings!

30 Day Blog Challenge: Day 4- 10 Things You Would Tell Your 16 Year Old Self

Oooooooo I get to save myself from all the mistakes, heart ache and pain? Welllll alrighty then! Let's go!

1. When you turn 17 (a year from now) DO NOT take those 26 Benedryl fast acting capsules. The near death experience is not worth what drove you to go off the deep end. You need to learn how to be strong and start praying through things. Start asking for professional help now! Trust me there are many, many, many more darker, pitch black days to come and none of those days are worth the life you have. Joy does come in the morning, press to wake up and find the joy.

2. Take the extra science, math and Spanish classes Baby Girl. Take the SAT, go to Temple University as planned and don't...I'm telling you don't take Pre Pharmacy or Psychology. Become a business major and go into HR. Trust me you will encounter more than your share of crazy and mentally disturbed people than you care to encounter just from working in HR. If you really can't swing school "be all you can be" and go into the Army now, not later (trust me you don't want to go later...TRUST ME!) Oh and you might want to start putting plans in place for an "app" called Instagram. What?! I'm trying to help me out! LOL! *looks from side to side*

3. Don't allow for fear or supposed love to keep you stuck here. Yes "he" loves you BUT his "epiphany" will not last long. There will be more fights, more bruises, and you will sacrifice for him only to get the short end of the stick in the end. He will hurt you to your core. Stick to the plan that includes you and you only.

4. Watch who makes your drink. Watch them as they make your drink. Don't accept a drink from someone you are not familiar with. If you set your drink down and take your eye off of it don't even think about drinking from that cup again.

5. Watch who you call "friend" not everyone is your friend and not every one has your back.

6. Don't ever be cool with being left alone with a strange dude that you are not familiar with and/or never met. Don't get sassy with said unfamiliar strange dudes and don't allow for yourself to be lured. Matter of fact when your friends roll you just stick to them like white on rice and roll with them.

7. Despite what you were told as a kid you are smart, beautiful, and worthy of all the love in the world. You have the greatest, sweetest spirit and you will always strive to be a genuine, yet awesome person. Learn this, know it and own it. People and life will test your knowledge of this heavily.

8. It is ok to be alone. There is nothing wrong with being with out a man. Nothing at all. You may find that it makes life easier sometimes.

9. Finish up your Cosmetology exam and don't stop until you pass it before you go off to school. It is priceless and will serve you well later in life.

10. Through anything you go through or no matter how alone you may feel, just know that God is always with you and God is the only one you can always go to and rely on.


This makes me wish I had a time machine.